Friday, August 6, 2010
Sunday, May 16, 2010
"LIFE, IT IS MUCH TO SHORT"
5/16/10
As I sit here typing and thinking of my younger brother in the hospital so terminally ill, I realize just how fragile life can be.
My brother was diagnosed a year and a half ago with colorectal cancer. His prognosis at that time was classified as "poor." He went through extensive chemotherapy, radiation therapy and then surgery. He seemed to be doing well until December of 2009 when he went for a PET scan. The scan revealed a small mass that appeared to be a hematoma. His oncologist told him to enjoy the Christmas Holiday and to return in three months for another PET scan.
One evening in early January he became very ill and was taken to the emergency room. He had been in severe pain and was vomiting. Another PET scan was done, which revealed that he had suspicious carcinogenesis (more cancer) in his abdomen. Surgery was perfomed two weeks later to find that his cancer had spread extensively and he was inoperable.
Not to make this posting very long, my brother is now in critical condition in the hospital. Many feel that the doctors were negligent. I did at first, but unfortunately they are not GOD, and PET scans are not the "find all" of any cancer. I have worked for a surgeon 11 of my 27 years and know that many do care about their patients. It is difficult to understand that because many physicians do not show compassion or have a difficult time showing it. There are the small group who do, but in all my years working for physicians I found that most do not.
I sit at my brother's bed side and watch him in so much pain and feel so helpless wondering what is it I can do to help him. I tried to talk to him but if you mention anything about "dying" either he will throw you out of his room, or he doesn't want to talk about it. This is okay as this is part of the process to "death and dying." I have found other ways to comfort him and one was just to be there and get him whatever he needs. I am sure that one day soon he will pass away and life will go on. He will leave behind a lovely wife, three children, six grandchildren, a sister and brother, and a 82 year old mother.
Whoever reads this posting I want you to know that I am okay. The advice I would give, however, to anyone that has a loved one who is dying is be there and just listen. Never argue, judge, or tell them what to do. Most important, do NOT walk into their hospital room or bedroom and ask "how are you feeling" when you know they are dying. Just say "hi" thought I would stop in to chat for a while. If you know they like a particular food and can still eat bring it, if they can only drink then bring them what you know they like or ask for, if they cannot eat or drink and are just lying there unable to talk then just bring yourself. Also, I want to let everyone know that they still can hear. Therefore, enter and say "hi" and your name that you are there. They will appreciate it, I'm sure.
Wishing everyone a Blessed Sunday and most of all, "Live Life as if it were your last day as tomorrow is never promised to anyone."
Cindy
As I sit here typing and thinking of my younger brother in the hospital so terminally ill, I realize just how fragile life can be.
My brother was diagnosed a year and a half ago with colorectal cancer. His prognosis at that time was classified as "poor." He went through extensive chemotherapy, radiation therapy and then surgery. He seemed to be doing well until December of 2009 when he went for a PET scan. The scan revealed a small mass that appeared to be a hematoma. His oncologist told him to enjoy the Christmas Holiday and to return in three months for another PET scan.
One evening in early January he became very ill and was taken to the emergency room. He had been in severe pain and was vomiting. Another PET scan was done, which revealed that he had suspicious carcinogenesis (more cancer) in his abdomen. Surgery was perfomed two weeks later to find that his cancer had spread extensively and he was inoperable.
Not to make this posting very long, my brother is now in critical condition in the hospital. Many feel that the doctors were negligent. I did at first, but unfortunately they are not GOD, and PET scans are not the "find all" of any cancer. I have worked for a surgeon 11 of my 27 years and know that many do care about their patients. It is difficult to understand that because many physicians do not show compassion or have a difficult time showing it. There are the small group who do, but in all my years working for physicians I found that most do not.
I sit at my brother's bed side and watch him in so much pain and feel so helpless wondering what is it I can do to help him. I tried to talk to him but if you mention anything about "dying" either he will throw you out of his room, or he doesn't want to talk about it. This is okay as this is part of the process to "death and dying." I have found other ways to comfort him and one was just to be there and get him whatever he needs. I am sure that one day soon he will pass away and life will go on. He will leave behind a lovely wife, three children, six grandchildren, a sister and brother, and a 82 year old mother.
Whoever reads this posting I want you to know that I am okay. The advice I would give, however, to anyone that has a loved one who is dying is be there and just listen. Never argue, judge, or tell them what to do. Most important, do NOT walk into their hospital room or bedroom and ask "how are you feeling" when you know they are dying. Just say "hi" thought I would stop in to chat for a while. If you know they like a particular food and can still eat bring it, if they can only drink then bring them what you know they like or ask for, if they cannot eat or drink and are just lying there unable to talk then just bring yourself. Also, I want to let everyone know that they still can hear. Therefore, enter and say "hi" and your name that you are there. They will appreciate it, I'm sure.
Wishing everyone a Blessed Sunday and most of all, "Live Life as if it were your last day as tomorrow is never promised to anyone."
Cindy
Saturday, April 17, 2010
Saturday, March 13, 2010
Monday, March 8, 2010
Tabitha & Chichi
Dear friends,
Happy Monday! Had a great weekend filming in the studio. Unfortunately, I had to leave little Tabitha home.
Attached, you will see a photo of me (on the right) holding Tabitha and on the left is my friend Natalie and her dog Chichi. We are both wearing the shirt with the amazing photo of FAITH, made by Cher Marketing.
For those of you who do not know of FAITH, she is truly an inspiring bipedal dog. A book and movie will soon be coming about her. Owner, Jude Stringfellow is a very good friend of mine. Her son Reuben Stringfellow found FAITH 7 years ago, abandoned by her mother. When Reuben took FAITH home and showed his mother Jude, it was at that time they noticed she had no front legs. The story truly is amazing how the entire family came together to get FAITH to walk. Visti http://www.boardthefaithtrain.com to read more about FAITH and to contact Jude.
Have a great week. Until next time.
Cindy
Happy Monday! Had a great weekend filming in the studio. Unfortunately, I had to leave little Tabitha home.
Attached, you will see a photo of me (on the right) holding Tabitha and on the left is my friend Natalie and her dog Chichi. We are both wearing the shirt with the amazing photo of FAITH, made by Cher Marketing.
For those of you who do not know of FAITH, she is truly an inspiring bipedal dog. A book and movie will soon be coming about her. Owner, Jude Stringfellow is a very good friend of mine. Her son Reuben Stringfellow found FAITH 7 years ago, abandoned by her mother. When Reuben took FAITH home and showed his mother Jude, it was at that time they noticed she had no front legs. The story truly is amazing how the entire family came together to get FAITH to walk. Visti http://www.boardthefaithtrain.com to read more about FAITH and to contact Jude.
Have a great week. Until next time.
Cindy
Saturday, March 6, 2010
I will never stop!
Hellow to all my wonderful blog followers,
Hoping you all are enjoying your weekend. Went into the studio today and filmed for a wonderful upcoming TV show. I shared with many on camera the journey and challenges I am still faced having had breast cancer. Some negative and some positive.
More importantly, all of the wonderful, amazing people I have met through Foundations and Organziations such as The Pink Rose Inspirational Foundation, which I am one of the Board of Advisors to. The vision plan for this Foundation is amazing. More to come soon about this.
Have a great weekend everyone.
Cindy
Hoping you all are enjoying your weekend. Went into the studio today and filmed for a wonderful upcoming TV show. I shared with many on camera the journey and challenges I am still faced having had breast cancer. Some negative and some positive.
More importantly, all of the wonderful, amazing people I have met through Foundations and Organziations such as The Pink Rose Inspirational Foundation, which I am one of the Board of Advisors to. The vision plan for this Foundation is amazing. More to come soon about this.
Have a great weekend everyone.
Cindy
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Be careful when you say harsh words to someone
Good morning and Happy Thursday to all my wonderful bloggers.
Over the past few weeks in Florida it has dipped into the mid to low 40's in temperature. This has got to be the coldest winter I can remember. While it is much colder elsewhere, for South Florida this is cold!!!!!!
At this time I would like to remind all of you to keep many of the families who lost loved ones in Haiti and Chili in your thoughts and prayers. Loosing a loved one, as many of us already know, can be devastating. Especially when it is unexpected. One never has closure loosing someone so quickly. No goodbye's, no I'm sorry's. Which brings me to the topic of choice today, and that is "Be careful when you say harsh words to someone because you can never take them back should they die before you ever see them again. Imagine the guilt one would feel should that happen.
I don't mean to bring up a depressing topic, but sit back and think about whether this has ever happened to you. My only suggestion to resolve some of the pain one feels during this kind of situation is to pray. Pray for the one you lost suddenly and were unable to say goodbye or I love you ever again. Trust me they will hear it as they would want us all to go on and live our lives to the fullest.
At this time, if you can, sit back and take a moment of silence for all the families sufferring in Haiti and Chili.
I thank you to all my bloggers who visit Cindy's Talk. I will be sure to return the favor as well by visiting all your blogs.
God Bless,
Cindy Papale
Over the past few weeks in Florida it has dipped into the mid to low 40's in temperature. This has got to be the coldest winter I can remember. While it is much colder elsewhere, for South Florida this is cold!!!!!!
At this time I would like to remind all of you to keep many of the families who lost loved ones in Haiti and Chili in your thoughts and prayers. Loosing a loved one, as many of us already know, can be devastating. Especially when it is unexpected. One never has closure loosing someone so quickly. No goodbye's, no I'm sorry's. Which brings me to the topic of choice today, and that is "Be careful when you say harsh words to someone because you can never take them back should they die before you ever see them again. Imagine the guilt one would feel should that happen.
I don't mean to bring up a depressing topic, but sit back and think about whether this has ever happened to you. My only suggestion to resolve some of the pain one feels during this kind of situation is to pray. Pray for the one you lost suddenly and were unable to say goodbye or I love you ever again. Trust me they will hear it as they would want us all to go on and live our lives to the fullest.
At this time, if you can, sit back and take a moment of silence for all the families sufferring in Haiti and Chili.
I thank you to all my bloggers who visit Cindy's Talk. I will be sure to return the favor as well by visiting all your blogs.
God Bless,
Cindy Papale
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